Episode 39 · The Regulated Leader Series · Coach Yourself Like You Coach Everyone Else

Written By Dr. Yanina Gomez
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Welcome Back, Visionista!

Have you ever notice how easily you'd calm down a friend in a panic? But... when it's you, the pep talk never comes.

In Part III of The Regulated Leader Series, we're looking at the double standard in how you talk to yourself versus everyone else, and the surprisingly small shift that closes that gap. Backed by research out of the University of Michigan, this episode shows you why the specific words matter less than you'd think, and gives you two simple tools to borrow the same calm, capable voice you already give everyone but yourself.

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Reflection Prompts:

  1. What's the difference between how I'd coach a friend through a hard moment and how I talk to myself in that same moment?

  2. When was the last time I gave myself the grace I hand out freely to everyone else?

  3. What would change if I used my own name the next time I needed to talk myself through something hard?

This Week's Mindfulness Strategies:

  • The Name Switch — Distanced Self-Talk

  • The Advice Flip — Borrowing Your Own Wisdom

This Week’s Action Step(s): 

Step 1. Once a day, catch one moment of self-critical or panicked internal talk.

Step 2. Rewrite it out loud, swapping "I" for your own name — "[Name], you can handle this," not "I can handle this."

Step 3. Use your anchor statement this week:
"What would it look like to lead yourself the way you already lead everyone else?"


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  1. Today's Working Artist: Weekly Mindful Reflections to Awaken Your Potential

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  3. Moms Don't Quit: How to Stay Connected with Your Tween or Teen in a Noisy World

“Let’s quiet the doubt, transform that relentless loud inner voice into your biggest ally, lead from unshakeable purpose, and watch your business and life rise. Purpose is loudest when anxiety is quiet.”

—Dr. Yanina

Dr. Yanina Gomez

Dr. Yanina is an author, speaker, psychologist, and mindset and psycho-emotional wellness specialist. She co-founded Art NXT Level, an online coaching program supporting artists’ careers. With a Doctorate in Psychology and advanced training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), she helps individuals navigate self-sabotage, anxiety, and personal growth. Dr. Yanina is passionate about equipping creatives and women entrepreneurs through workshops, retreats, practical resources, and individual wellness sessions. She has authored various books, including Today’s Working Artist, Crush Self-Sabotage & Live Fully, and Moms Don’t Quit! She is the host of Inside Edge; Mindset, and Emotional Wellness for Women Entrepreneur Podcast.

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