Welcome Back, Visionista!
You've done the work. The number is right. The email is written. And then it sits in your drafts, or you rewrite it one more time, softer. That stall right before you hit send is the subject of Part III of The Visible Leader, our four-part series on money, worth, and visibility.
In this episode, we're talking about the moment of the ask, and why the hesitation you feel there is not what you've been told it is. Research changed how I see it, and I think it will change how you see it too.
Hit play to hear the story behind this episode, and the practical strategies I use before an ask so I'm not improvising under pressure..
As you listen, sit with these questions:
What ask have you been putting off, and for how long?
What do you say to yourself in the moment right before you hit send?
What would change if your hesitation were information instead of a flaw?
A few things to explore in this episode:
Why the stall isn't irrational
Fear vs. quiet knowing
Asking without risking the relationship
Ready to put this into practice this week?
Step 1. Choose one ask you've been putting off.
Step 2. Listen for the two strategies that will help you prepare.
Step 3. Take the small step from this week's practice, and notice what shifts.
Anchor statement: I can ask clearly and still keep the relationship.
Research mentioned in this episode:
Bowles, H. R., Babcock, L., & Lai, L. (2007). Social incentives for gender differences in the propensity to initiate negotiations: Sometimes it does hurt to ask. Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes, 103(1), 84-103. https://gap.hks.harvard.edu/social-incentives-gender-differences-propensity-initiate-negotiations-sometimes-it-does-hurt-ask
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